Please pray for my youngest son. He is going through a very difficult time grieving from losing his dad (my husband) about a week ago. He is the one who found him dead on our bed early on September 3rd. I had fallen asleep on the couch because he was unconscious and having agonal breathing and wanted to keep our bedroom over 90° because he felt SO cold. He was on hospice for almost 4 months and the last few weeks were terrible. Our youngest son tried to give him CPR but he had already been gone for at least an hour. Our son is struggling so much from seeing him like that and we also had an argument today where I said really horrible things to him. Please heal his heart and soul. When preparing the gravesite because it's a rural cemetery and they had to put concrete in and other preparations they had to partially lift The headstone of our daughter who passed in 1976. Unbeknownst to any of us she wasn't buried but only three and a half to 4 ft deep. Her grave had collapsed and her little bones were exposed and it traumatized him even further. She was only two and a half pounds and passed away at only one day old. I never even got to see her or hold her touch her or talk to her before the doctors ran her down the hall way in the hospital to the NICU. She had congenital deformities as well. I thought grave site the funeral director had already closed the coffin because I had just been discharged from the hospital but they told us if I needed to say goodbye and be with her a minute they could reopen the top so I could see her. My husband said no, that I didn't need to and shouldn't see her because that would be morbid in his words. He said the same things before they took her from the hospital to the funeral home when I was offered to go into the nursery and see her before she was taken off life support. Well today while my son was preparing the grave site for my husband to be laid to rest near her next week her headstone came up and lifted dirt and concrete that exposed her and I told him that he should have contacted me immediately so I could drive out there and would have the type of closure I've waited 50 years for. He explained that I caretaker had been taking pictures of them and he didn't want to get in trouble with them thinking her grave had been disturbed intentionally. His phone had died in his truck and he had to wait for the concrete to come and before you know it her headstone and her little damaged grave was underground again never to be seen in my lifetime most likely. I said some very horrible and cruel things to him that he made a choice that I wouldn't have wanted to see her that way and it resonated with what my husband had said 50 years ago when she was born and I snapped at him. I said horrible things nobody should say to their child as if he had done something wrong. He's struggling with so many things with his family and trying to get this funeral finished when all the construction aspects of this rural cemetery is his burden to carry. He is so exhausted physically and mentally and spiritually. It's only been 7 days now, tomorrow morning. He is hurting so bad and I can't take back any of the things I said. He's done so much to comfort me even though I wasn't always a good mother. I'm hurting and should just stay in my home because I tend to break down and when I do people's feelings get hurt. Please help him to forgive me and understand he's doing a great job and has put these last seven days 100% into taking care of me and making sure that I have everything I need. He comes into my home and checks on me just to give me comfort and hug and consolation. Please unhurt his heart from everything people have said or implied about the choices he made he even purchased the coffin and spent every cent he had and then some to make sure his daddy had the burial he felt he deserved. I think I've ruined our relationship right now after what was said and done today. He's put every minute from daylight till midnight for the last 7 days sharing memories, songs, and stories, often in tears and now he seems just broken. Please pray he forgives me and understands my heart and can be happy again.